Withholding Challenges
Protect Your Precious Time with Your Kids...
We're going to talk about a very painful subject that you may have personal experience of -
The Withholding Impasse...
Facing the possibility of being kept away from your kids can be terrifying, living it can be soul destroying.
We want you to know, you're not alone in this.
When withholding is threatened, many fathers fall apart. They start walking on eggshells, trying to second guess what to do, or not do, to avoid this cruel punishment.
It may feel like this is the way to keep seeing your children, but it is actually building a pattern that will eventuallybackfire.
The sad fact is that the parent who is threatening withholding is so hellbent on ‘punishing’ you, they lose sight of the fact they are damaging, sometimes permanently, their own children.
It is a truly tragic situation - and we feel for you. But don’t give up. The law is on your side. And so is common sense and human decency.
So, take a breath and let’s see if we can put some strategies into place to avoid or to deal with withholding...
Engage in Open Communication:
Communication is your strongest ally. Regardless of the situation, communicate with your ex in a respectful and solution-focused manner. Emphasise your child's right to have a loving relationship with both parents. Address any concerns without hostility, showing your commitment to your child's well-being.
Document Your Efforts:
Whether it's a threat or reality, document every attempt you make to engage with your children. Emails, texts, or other forms of communication should reflect your consistent desire to be part of their lives. This documentation could be crucial if legal intervention becomes necessary.
Seek Legal Guidance:
If there are threats of withholding it's important to get legal advice. We can provide insights into your legal rights and help you work out a courses of action. Whether it's mediation or court proceedings, our expertise will help you navigate the situation more effectively. Remember - we offer a free legal consultation and can talk to you about your specific situation.
Consider Mediation:
In situations involving threats or actual withholding, mediation is always a constructive approach. A professional mediator can help both parties identify the issues, to communicate effectively, and if needed establish a co-parenting plan that prioritizes the child's well-being.
Take Legal Action:
If withholding occurs, Don’t wait! Often by the time fathers get in touch with us, withholding has already been happening for some time - it is never too late but the sooner you act when this happens, the better. We can assist in drafting messages to your ex that respectfully set and enforce boundaries, assert your children's rights and foster a healthier co-parenting relationship. Call us today to work out the best course of action for you.
Never Give Up:
Above all, remember that your role as a father is invaluable. Regardless of the hurdles, your love and presence matter. Stay committed, stay focused, and never give up on rebuilding a meaningful relationship with your children.
With our expertise by your side, we will help you transform obstacles into opportunities and create an even stronger bond with your children.
Call or set up a meeting HERE today.